Thursday, March 29, 2012

New Rules worked great!

So, youngest & stepdaughter asked dad to "meet" the boyfriend.. Keep in mind she's 11, will be 12 Saturday. I didn't like the idea.  Voiced it when it was mentioned and was dismissed.. No biggie.  Well the actual day of the meeting came - and JT kept dreading it.. I asked him to ask her what it meant to her and got my fav 3 words - "I don't know" - his dad wanted this meeting.. yea right.. To make a long, dragged out story short - her and the boy were planning to sneak away and kiss while dad's were talking.. omg . Needless to say - we went right to the rules and punishment list - lying to adult = 1 month of no electronics, etc..... wow.. she just got her phone back about 3 weeks ago.  No good way to enjoy Spring Break & Bday week.  But we are letting her have her bday party then strict lockdown after that... yikes... 11 and kissing.. not cool!

Monday, March 19, 2012

the life of a quiet stepmom

OMG.. I am gonna take that phone and throw it out the window.  R is mad because she has to follow the rules and pay the price for breaking them.  Plus earn money by doing another chore and mad about it cause she has to rush before I take her to her gym class and pay for her cheer class.. if she would remove the phone from her butt she could get her chores done in a reasonable amount of time w/out the flippin' disrespectful attitude i am praying about physically removing from her.. lol..

ok, i am done venting now.. praying for a quiet out loud tongue and praying for non physical reactions..

L

Friday, March 16, 2012

Update

Of course I believe my hubby. We are going to follow thru with the rules. It didn't end well last night. I was the bad guy and hubby told me to leave him alone. But first thing this am, Hubby said rules will be enforced. I realized we don't have a rule for distraction of property. Might have to modify that. Lol

Thursday, March 15, 2012

Peace is gone - Drama back!

Today's deal:
My two youngest sometimes wear each others jackets/sweatshirts.. No biggie, right.. Well today A. wears B.'s sweatshirt.  Then they switch and B takes notes from pocket. (yes do you see where this is going).  A wants said note back and B wont give it back.  Not pretty... A gets note back.  Puts note in her room and then goes w/me to her horse lesson. A gets phone call from B. that my hubby went into room to get said note and read it and B protected note and flushed.  So I call and ask hubby and get different story.  His story is B returned black ribbon to A's room and saw note on bed and brought it out and teased hubby and wouldn't let hubby get note and ripped and flushed note.  Are you following so far....  Now, A is upset and rightfully so and so am I.  The icing on the cake - the black ribbon is on the kitchen counter not in A's room.  How do I proceed... tune in and find out tomorrow......

Wednesday, March 14, 2012

Smooth Sailing

Well since the rules have been in effect, things are going pretty smooth. Although they have only been in effect for a few days. The big news in our house - Rebeccaj is moving away from wanting a horse and wants to cheer. Hell. I want to cheer after I heard this. She wants to tryout and I sure hope she makes it. I am sooooo glad JT didn't get a horse for her. Omg! Pray she makes cheer. Leanne

Tuesday, March 6, 2012

The Results & new House Rules!

I can say it was a very productive meeting Sunday night.  The kids got a lot off their chest and I have combined all their lists and have a good start!  As for drama - our youngest is stirring it up again, we will have to see if anything pans out, hopefully not another call from school!

House Rules:


RULES IN THE HOUSE FOR ALL!

DO NOT TOUCH, HIT, SLAP, SPIT, SQUIRT WATER OR KICK ANYONE – PUNISHMENT IS: THE PERSON WHO STARTS IT, GETS IT BACK AND THERE IS NO BLOCKING AND THEN IT’S OVER.  NO TEARS AND NO ADULT IN HOUSE CARES! YOU START IT; YOU DESERVE IT.

NO NAME CALLING AT ALL.  IT IS HARD TO TELL IF JOKING OR NOT. – PUNISHMENT IS: 2 DAYS OF SCOOPING POOP AND 2 TIMES EMPTY DISHWASHER.

KNOCK BEFORE ENTERING ANYONE’S ROOM, RESPECT PEOPLE’S THINGS (*ASK PERMISSION BEFORE BORRWING ANYTHING & RETURN BY THE END OF THE DAY), NO MAKING FUN OF JB OR CS, NO FOOD OR DRINK IN ROOM IF YOU ARE THE GUEST W/OUT PERMISSION.  – PUNISHMENT IS: 2 DAYS OF SCOOPING POOP AND 2 DAYS OF EMPTY DISHWASHER. 
(* EXCEPT BECCAH – NO DRINK ALLOWED IN ANY ROOM AT ALL)

IF YOU LEAVE ANYTHING IN ANOTHER PERSON’S ROOM – PUNISHMENT IS:  THE OTHER PERSON OWNS IT FOR 2 WEEKS (INCLUDING PHONE, KINDLE FIRE, LAPTOP, FLAT IRON, ETC) NO EXCEPTIONS AND NO SECOND CHANCES.

IF YOU TRASH ANOTHER PERSON’S ROOM AND LEAVE – PUNISHMENT IS: YOU HAVE TO CLEAN UP THEIR ROOM WHICH INCLUDES DUSTING, VACUUMING, MAKING BED, CLEANING UP THAT PERSON’S BATHROOM (INCLUDING TOILET & TRASH), MIRROR, ORGANIZE CLOSET, DO THEIR LAUNDRY, CLEAN OUT UNDER BED, AND CLEAN ALL MIRRORS EVERY DAY FOR SEVEN DAYS.

MIND YOUR OWN BUSINESS & DO IT W/NO ATTITUDE (INCLUDES LEAVING ROOM WHEN ASKED)! – PUNISHMENT IS: 24 HOURS OF NOTHING ELECTRONIC!

NO WHISPERING, NO BEING TWO FACED, NO SECRETS, NO MUMBLING AND NO BEING DISRESPECTFUL TO EACH OTHER – PUNISHMENT IS:  3 DAYS NO INTERNET & 3 DAYS SCOOPING POOP & 2 TIMES OF EMPTYING DISHWASHER. 

NO ONE IS THE BOSS – UNLESS A PARENT LEAVES THAT PERSON IN CHARGE.  – PUNISHMENT IS: 2 DAYS OF SCOOPING POOP AND 2 DAYS OF EMPTY DISHWASHER DUTY.

WORK TOGETHER, BE KIND TO EACH OTHER, HELP ONE ANOTHER – NO LEAVING ANYONE OUT, NO GANGING UP ON EACH OTHER, NO GETTING MAD IF PERSON DOESN’T WANT TO PARTICIPATE, DON’T GET MAD IF BEING HELPED BY ANOTHER, AND NO LEAVING ANOTHER ALONE WHEN PLAYING WITH FRIENDS (UNLESS THE PERSON DESERVES IT – CASE BY CASE BASIS) – PUNISHMENT IS:  2 DAYS OF SCOOPING POOP AND 2 DAYS OF EMPTY DISHWASHER DUTY.

LYING TO EACH OTHER – PUNISHMENT IS:  3 DAYS NO ELECTRONICS (IF YOU LIE ABOUT ANY OF THE ABOVE, THIS IS ADDED TO EXISTING PUNISHMENT) AND IF BECCAH OR ASHLEE – THE LIAR HAS TO HELP W/DOGS AND GIVE THE NON-LIAR THE MONEY.

DO NOT WAKE UP EACH OTHER – PUNISHMENT IS:  2 DAYS OF SCOOPING POOP AND 2 TIMES EMPTY DISHWASHER

DO NOT COMPLAIN – PUNISHMENT IS:  IF ON GOLF CART, YOU ARE WALKING HOME, IF IN HOUSE,  2 DAYS OF SCOOPING POOP.

LYING TO ADULT – 1 MONTH NO ELECTRONICS, NO FRIENDS, NO OUTINGS AND IF BECCAH OR ASHLEE – THE LIAR HAS TO HELP W/DOGS AND GIVE THE NON-LIAR THE MONEY).

BEING DISREPSECTFUL, CORRECTING, ARGUING, INTERRUPTING, EYE ROLLING (PRETTY MUCH ANYTHING EXCEPT YES OR NO MAM/SIR) TO AN ADULT – PUNISHMENT IS:  RANGING FROM 2 DAYS SCOOPING POOP & 2 TIMES EMPTY DISHWASHER TO 2 WEEKS NO ELECTRONICS, NO FRIENDS, NO OUTINGS.

Sunday, March 4, 2012

Coming to Jesus Meeting!

Well, todays the day we are all sitting down and going to try to work out a compromise.  I am tired of the sister bashing.  OH YEA!  Also tired of different rules for different kids.  Causing hate & discontent and resentment and I am over it!  So... I told the girls to each come up with 10 rules and punishments and that JT and I will combine and polish the list and combine and post all the rules!  Should be interesting, usually the kids come up with worse punishment than we do!  LOL!  I will keep you posted and will post the rules and punishments when we compile the list.

Pray for me and Jamie to have the wisdom to combine this list and the knowledge to stay strong and enforce it!

Leanne